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Sellers Won't Listen? Maybe They Heard You The First Time

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Real Estate Agent with Allen Tate Realtors Chapel Hill, NC 919-819-8199

So many agents are not feelin' the love right now. “I've talked and talked 'til I'm blue in the face but they won't reduce their price!” “I've told them over and over that there are 60 other homes just like theirs on the market but they WON'T listen!” Maybe, just maybe, it's because they heard you the first time.

Are you frustrated?

Remember the first time you met with them? You listened and made notes about all the great upgrades in their home and you nodded and smiled in full appreciation of all the things they feel are truly unique and special about it and you said things like “Buyers will love that.” Then you told them you had done some homework and you pulled out long lists of “comps” for their property and “actives” on the market to help them “price” the property.

You told them the “comps” show an average selling price of $xxx,xxx and that the ones that were “priced right” sold in an average of xx days. You pointed out that there is “competition” in the market. That there are 60 “actives” on the market with whom they are “comparable” and that they will need to take that into consideration when “pricing” their home for sale. You mentioned that the North Carolina Triangle real estate market is one of the lucky ones: while prices are down year over year, we still have a vibrant community in Chapel Hill / Durham and Raleigh and homes are still selling!

Listening attentively with popcorn

They listened attentively and asked what you would suggest they do to make their home sell quickly. They did it all and when it came time to choose a “list price” you were only mildly surprised that they wanted to just try it at a bit higher price than your recommendation. That's ok, you thought...30 days and we'll get it down. After all, they were really listening to you when you explained the numbers.

They were listening all right, and this is what they heard:
You have a beautiful and unique home and, if you do the things we discussed, I can certainly imagine buyers will be tripping over each other to get a chance at it. Your home will sell for $xxx,xxx in xx days if you price it near the average (a dollar above is just as “near” as a dollar below.) We will get lots of buyers looking at your home because there are 60 other homes, just like yours, that have lots of buyers ACTIVELY looking at them in this vibrant market! This is gonna be great! You can price it comparably and take your pick of all those buyers out there who are competing for a great home.”

What might have happened if you had chosen your words more carefully? What if on the first meeting you had validated their choices in home remodeling by saying “You made a smart choice there. Buyers in this price range expect to see these amenities.” or “These kinds of renovations add greatly to saleability but don't necessarily produce a dollar for dollar return so it was smart of you to get your money's worth by doing them while you could still enjoy them.”

What if you had used more accurate and descriptive language? You could have shown them the “unsold homes” on the market, of which there are 60, with amenities buyers expect, just like yours. Those homes, you could have explained, were “competing” with the ones which actually sold, for buyers who have a lot of choices these days. “And here, Mr. Seller, are the full listings for each of those properties which sold and those which are still competing for a buyer. Let's go over each one of these, noting the number of choices the buyer has and compare them to what you have to offer. Let's discuss where each of the sold properties was “positioned” when it began marketing and at what price it was finally sold.”

You could mention that while we are lucky not to be in one of the worst hit parts of the country, buyers in the Raleigh / Durham / Chapel Hill market are getting some of the best home buys that our market has seen in many years!Mr. Seller, if you make a smart decision about “positioning” your home for sale, you too, can join the ranks of buyers everywhere who are taking advantage of opportunities which may never be available again. I would love to use my market knowledge and experience to help you position yourself to do just that!”

Choose your words carefully. Our job is to use our market knowledge and marketing skills to get the home sold, not just get it listed!

There is every possibility that your sellers really did listen to you...maybe, just maybe, you didn't really say what you thought you said!

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Comments(53)

Margaret Woda
Long & Foster Real Estate, Inc. - Crofton, MD
Maryland Real Estate & Military Relocation

While my advice is based on sound information and experience, I don't expect all sellers to follow it.   You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

Oct 06, 2010 04:59 PM
Ryan Case
SCA Real Estate - Anaheim, CA
877-828-0710

If a seller won't listen then I just make sure to politely educate them, and I will try their way for a while, then coach them over to my side :)

Oct 06, 2010 05:26 PM
Marianne Cherico
Interiors by Marianne Cherico - Foxboro, MA
Home Stager -Massachusetts and Rhode Island

Sarah,

Great post and how true it is. Some sellers are better at hearing what we say than others! They are usually the ones that sell!!!

 

Oct 06, 2010 05:42 PM
Bryan Robertson
Los Altos, CA

Sometimes spin will get the clients back on track.  However, I make it clear with a new listing that a failure to get an offer or appreciable interest in 2 weeks means the price is wrong.  I take my analysis very seriously and ensure my clients know that the price I set will be very close to what it will sell for or over.

Oct 06, 2010 05:55 PM
Doyle Beekman
The Beekman Group-Keller Williams, Austin - Cedar Park, TX
CPA Broker CLHMS ABR CRS CNE

Sarah, I've also included a list of recent expired listings and explained that they have expired for one of two reasons; overpriced or undermarketed. It has helped on more than one occasion.

Oct 06, 2010 09:11 PM
Claudette Millette
The Buyers' Counsel - Ashland, MA
Buyer, Broker - Metrowest Mass

SarahGray:

Sellers are not listening and that is a fact. I try to be compassionate by thinking - if I were selling my own home right now I would not like to face the fact that the value is not what it was four years ago either.  I know it would be difficult.  But if you have to sell your home right now there are some facts that you have to deal with. You show them all of the competition, days on market and solds but they have to be able to accept this info and it is not easy.

 

Oct 07, 2010 12:29 AM
Jim Shaw
Premiere Plus Realty Co. - Naples, FL
Real Estate Sales Associate, Naples Luxury Real Estate

Excellent post Sarah!

I think you are right-on. 

We need to use different words than we've been using.

Seller's are like "Deer in the headlights." 

They are frozen on a specific price that they want or need that is probably based on the high water mark back in 2005.

I had one Seller almost toss me out of their condo after I reviewed the comparable sales.

I asked him why he thought his track-housing condo would sell for $30,000 more than the others and he replied, "I'm going to include the computer!"

I also liked Hillary's response, above, when she suggested we ask the Seller's if they would buy it at that price?

Oct 07, 2010 12:41 AM
SarahGray Lamm
Allen Tate Realtors Chapel Hill, NC 919-819-8199 - Chapel Hill, NC
Realtor - 100K Hours of NC Real Estate Experience

I see there are some who got my point ...and some who didn't. Kind of makes my point in an ironic kind of way... I don't necessarily think it is the sellers "fault" that they aren't "hearing" us. We need to take a look at the words we choose and the message we send from the very beginning. Of course there are those who will be angry if you don't say what they want to hear but that is their perogative and may be the first step in their learning process. So be it. I just don't want us to be part of the problem because we chose words that don't convey what we mean! ;-)

Oct 07, 2010 12:58 AM
Cheryl Ritchie
RE/MAX Leading Edge www.GoldenResults.com - Huntingtown, MD
Southern Maryland 301-980-7566

I like using the word "rejected" along with "unsold." Actives are "rejects" since there is no sale. I like your very analytical approach.

Oct 07, 2010 01:21 AM
SarahGray Lamm
Allen Tate Realtors Chapel Hill, NC 919-819-8199 - Chapel Hill, NC
Realtor - 100K Hours of NC Real Estate Experience

Cheryl, I agree. I use "rejected" to describe "expired". The concept is the same whichever you choose...make it clear that buyers are passing them over for other better "positioned" properties! Thanks for bringing it up!

Oct 07, 2010 01:42 AM
Kim Brown
Keller Williams Realty - Keene, NH
Keene, NH - New England at its Best!

SarahGray, excellent post! We have to be so mindful of how we phrase things.  I know that sometimes what I'm trying to say and how it's interpreted is quite different. It's imperative that we communicate clearly to our sellers from the get-go...clearly, the buyers will!

Oct 07, 2010 02:00 AM
Stephen Hodge
Chestnut Park Real Estate Limited, Brokerage - Cobourg, ON

Meet buyers! So true of sellers believing what wasn't actually said because they hear what they want to hear - though I tend to believe those sellers will hear what they want no matter what or how something is said. If they don't appear interested in being one of the homes that sells, then meet buyers through the house. Don't talk the house down, but be sure to offer new buers a chance of seeing several or more other homes at the same time. We are allowed to represent them as well afterall - and provided we do our level best to sell our listing, the fact that anybody with a pulse can see there are better deals to be had out there doesn't fall into our lap as a fault, it just is what it is!

Oct 07, 2010 03:28 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

This market CAN be very frustrating when sellers are still convinced their "castles" are worth more than what the market will bear.     I always put the sales price I believe their house will sell for on their net sheet and circle in --- at the top of their net sheet, and also the date I said that, to refer back on it when we need to talk price reduction.

Oct 07, 2010 03:38 AM
Timothy Mattingly
Louisville Homes Team Louisville KY louisvillehomesreport.com - Louisville, KY
Louisville Homes for Sale

Sarah: I could not agree with this sentence more."Choose your words carefully. Our job is to use our market knowledge and marketing skills to get the home sold, not just get it listed!"  There are two many agents that list house after house and get no results because they cannot communicate well enough. We have all had these clients, but to get results we have to help them along this path. As has been stated in earlier comments, actives and expired tell the story.   

Oct 07, 2010 04:54 AM
Christianne O'Malley
Dickson Realty - Reno, NV
Exceptional Service - Delivering Results in Reno!

Sara - Very well written article and congratulations on the feature. Once of the things we do to help sellers understand who they are competing with when price reductions are resisted is to take them into the market and show them the competition. One of two things will happen. They will reduce their price, or they will take their home off the market and decide not to sell. Either path is better than where we are without a price reduction because they either become an active seller or they get off the fence, cleaning up the inventory.

Oct 07, 2010 06:24 AM
Jennifer Prestwich
Henderson, Thornton, Broomfield and Westminster - Henderson, CO
Madison & Co Properties

SarahGray- this is absolutely brilliant.  I just had a meeting with Gary Barnes today and he spoke of this phenomenon exactly- what you think you are saying vs. what the listener is hearing.  There is a difference- especially when the listener is a home seller and potential client.  It is easy to get caught up in the kind words, only to have the seller think "you see, I was right! My house IS worth more!"  I like what you have to say- so I'm subscribing.

Oct 07, 2010 01:36 PM
SarahGray Lamm
Allen Tate Realtors Chapel Hill, NC 919-819-8199 - Chapel Hill, NC
Realtor - 100K Hours of NC Real Estate Experience

Jennifer, thank you for your kind words! I appreciate the connection we made. Could you educate me? Who is Gary Barnes? I googled him and there are quite a few!

Oct 07, 2010 01:46 PM
Olga Diaz
COLDWELL BANKER TOMLINSON - Pullman, WA
Potter, Mng Broker, CRS, ASP, ePRO, ABR

Sarah!  Great post!  It's so true what you said.  I think it's important to be positive about the amenities the home has but realistic about the market we're currently in.  Thanks for a great read!

Oct 08, 2010 05:31 AM
Roger Spaugh
ColdwellBanker Sloane Realty - Sunset Beach, NC

It's true many sellers have "selective" hearing.  A few years back, I discussed comps, the current market trend, and my seller still wanted their property priced $30,000 higher than the suggested listing price.  Received an offer at the price I suggested within 3 months - seller declined.  Two years later, they finally sold it, after the market crumbled more, $64,000 less than their listed price.  Looking back they wish they had taken my advice.  But as the saying goes, "hindsight is 20/20".

Oct 10, 2010 05:37 AM
Karen Kruschka
RE/MAX Executives - Woodbridge, VA
- "My Experience Isn't Expensive - It's PRICELESS"

SarahGray  Your points are very well made - your professionalism certainly stands out.  Of course, you frequently get the "yeah, but" seller no matter how you phrase your presentation.  That's when it's time to pick up your marbles and go home

Nov 04, 2010 04:38 AM