Help moving to assisted living in Greenwich, CT. When is it time to go?

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Help moving to assisted living in Greenwich, CT. When is it time to go? I am a volunteer for a fine group called Stay at Home in Wilton, aka SAHW. The group is, as the name implies, dedicated to allowing our town's older citizens, the option of aging in place, remaining in their homes as the grow older. Through them we provide rides around town to shopping, doctor's appointments, social engagements etc... to those that can no longer drive. We also do small home handy tasks such as changing light bulbs and clearing walkways of ice and snow. Very often with just a little bit of assistance, seniors can remain in their own homes for many years.

When does that arrangement become unrealistic?

Yesterday, I met with a executor client in charge of a Greenwich, CT. estate. The elderly resident had passed away and the home needed to be prepared to put the estate on the market. As we walked through the house, I was surprised to see the types of clutter that filled the first floor living room and
Greenwich, CT cluttered homesun room areas. There were clothing items piled everywhere and toiletries arranged in a row on a windowsill. The kinds of things one would expect to find in the upstairs bedroom and bathroom. I have seen hoarding behavior before and this was not as bad as some. The entire area was worn threadbare, and dirty. I see this often in estate clean out situations, so I was not surprised.

Climbing the stairs to the two bedrooms and the ONLY BATHROOM in the home, I expected to encounter more of the same. What I found astounded me. The rooms, while somewhat cluttered, were not worn or dirty. The bathroom though dated, was pristine. As if no one had been upstairs and used these rooms for many, many years!
Clean bathroom in Greenwich, CT.

My client told me that the steep stairway had become unusable for the residents a long time ago. They had all moved into the first floor spaces and settled in. I am not sure why someone did not mention a stair lift or something of that sort as a better solution.

This explains the first floor bedroom closet type clutter and the toiletries neatly arranged on the sill. This WAS their bedroom. UNFORTUNATELY this was also their bathroom space as well. The only toilet and shower/tub was up those impassable steep stairs. I am not at all clear how certain hygiene functions were performed under this arrangement. One can only imagine.

The decision to move an aging loved one to a more suitable living arrangement can be a difficult one. There is a line in the sand where it becomes quite a bit more obvious what needs to be done.

We can help you when the time comes.

Help moving to assisted living in Greenwich, CT. When is it time to go?

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Rainmaker
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Debbie Gartner
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You are so right...they should have gotten one of those chair lifts.  I've seen those in several customer homes.

Gosh, you deal w/ just difficult and challenging situations.  And, you provide a great service to those hoping to extend their time at home.

Jun 22, 2011 11:33 PM #1
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Peter, what a great service for seniors that exists in your area...I have a client now between the 2 of them are 85 & 90 and they are 'downsizing' won't consider assisted living ...sometimes the help of family & loved ones is just not enough.  Don't we all look on these instances & say I'll do better for my kids!!  Good luck with your new project...

Jun 22, 2011 11:37 PM #2
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Peter Schattenfield
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Estate Dissolution and Preparation (203)388-8092 CT.

Debbie, I can not believe the stairlift option was not considered.

 

Ginny, I am all for the Aging in Place concept. Our town's seniors add a great deal of depth and knowledge to our community. Sometimes just a bit of help is all that is needed. THERE IS however, a point where is becomes untenable.

Jun 22, 2011 11:59 PM #3
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I'm a firm believer in not letting the elderly age in place unless their place is in an assisted living facility or some other over 55 community. People are social creatures, and the more people we have around us, the happier we are, especially as we age and our friends die and our family has their own families that they have to worry about.

Jun 23, 2011 04:45 PM #4
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That’s quite a story, Peter. Makes me somewhat sad and reminds me of the wonderful times I used to have in college with Alpha Phi Omega at Texas A&M University when we used to visit the nursing homes once each week. So many of the residents looked forward to having 18-22-year-old college students stop by each week and spend some time with them. Eventually we started taking our dogs, cats, parrots, birds, rats, mice, guinea pigs, snakes, etc., with us and it became even more fun. Unfortunately after about a year the County Health Services put an end to the visiting pets.

Have a nice day

Jun 23, 2011 09:58 PM #5
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Just a word of wisdom - the burning fire place in your picture is deal breaker - old folks get scared by that - mine said she doesn't want to talk about it.  They see their stuff up in a fire, being tossed into a fire to get rid of it.  Remember these people grew up in the depression and houses burned down and they did not have insurance to cover it.  So they are not happy with fires showing someone relaxing while stuff burns...Not a good message to send.  And what does it have to do with your business at all?  Look at any successful well-read blog on the net - do any of them show something like this picture?  Something totally unrelated to what they are looking for?  No they don't.  It is a cute idea if your selling cookware or travel, but not for what you are selling.  How does this picture relate or gain the confidence of people you want as clients?  It does not at all.  

Pauli.

Jun 23, 2011 11:51 PM #6
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Just a word of wisdom - the burning fire place in your picture is deal breaker - old folks get scared by that - mine said she doesn't want to talk about it.  They see their stuff up in a fire, being tossed into a fire to get rid of it.  Remember these people grew up in the depression and houses burned down and they did not have insurance to cover it.  So they are not happy with fires showing someone relaxing while stuff burns...Not a good message to send.  And what does it have to do with your business at all?  Look at any successful well-read blog on the net - do any of them show something like this picture?  Something totally unrelated to what they are looking for?  No they don't.  It is a cute idea if your selling cookware or travel, but not for what you are selling.  How does this picture relate or gain the confidence of people you want as clients?  It does not at all.  

Pauli.

Jun 23, 2011 11:52 PM #7
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Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
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Eric, I do agree with you that there can be a far more fulfilling and social existence at an appropriate over 55 facility. But, I also understand there are some who do not see that as a desirable plan for their golden years. If. with a little assist from us via a group like SAHW, we can let them stay SAFELY in their home, then I am here to provide that help. There does come a point however,  where that no longer is a viable or safe situation.

Jun 24, 2011 12:39 AM #8
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Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
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Russel, This is a great idea. We have a local no kill shelter a few miles from here. I will drop in on them and see if we can institute a "visit the residents at The Greens" day each week. I know the animals will love this as much as the residents . 

Jun 24, 2011 12:42 AM #9
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Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
Estate Dissolution and Preparation (203)388-8092 CT.

Pauli, Thank you for reading my blog. I am sorry you are distressed by my signature photograph. My father who is an "old folk" loves my fire , as do many other over 70's that I know. It is just some firewood burning, not the possessions of clients. The message it sends though, obviously not to you, is relax and sit back, we are here to help you in this stressful time. I believe a fire conveys a sense of warmth and safety, very much part of a message I want to send. So i believe it has a great deal to do with my business. Not everyone is fire phobic.

While I do not have the time to read all the successful blogs on the internet, (and I am impressed that you do and have), such a broad blanket statement about so many blogs available out there lacks a degree of credibility. 

Jun 24, 2011 12:55 AM #10
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My grandmother came to live with us when I was young. It was fun having her around the house, and I think she liked it, too. I felt so sorry for her when we finally had to find an assisted living facility for her, but we visited as often as we could, and she certainly had a lot of friends, certainly more than she ever had while living with us. I believe she was quite happy in the years before her death.

I don’t think I want to live in place when I’m old. I want to be with people. Find me that nice facility that overlooks the beach and I’ll be happy!

 

Jun 27, 2011 10:47 AM #11
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Peter Schattenfield
Turning Point Estate Services LLC - Wilton, CT
Estate Dissolution and Preparation (203)388-8092 CT.

Jim, I agree with 100%. Gone are the days when assisted livi g was a godforsaken snake pit. These days many facilities abound with interesting social activities and peer companionship. I will keep a lookout for the ocean view facility and let you know.

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