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OMG?! Are We Really Getting That Distracted?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate

Walmart Door SignWhen I was a little girl, I used to get separated from my mom all the time while she shopped in the department store.  Bored, curious, and looking for adventure, I would regularly wander off in an effort to explore areas more appealing to a child my age.  Eventually, a store employee would notice me   then invariably escort me to Customer Service.  Soon afterwards, I was asked for my name and age, and then a version of the following announcement was recited over the PA system.  I can remember the words like it was yesterday:

Attention Please:  Would the mother of Carie, 6 years old, blond hair, wearing a pink dress and patent leather shoes, please meet your daughter at Customer Service on the 3rd Floor.  Thank you.

Usually, the store employees would feed me candy while I waited for my mother to arrive.  Quite possibly, another attractive reason for asserting my independence.  Yet, didn't everything seem so much simpler back then?  Getting lost in a department store meant nothing more than a pleasant, employee-accompanied trip to Customer Service, a quick, storewide PA announcement and candy.  In other words, no real danger and a happy ending.

Could our high octane, ever-advancing, nonstop, must-be-in-touch, super-sized, sometimes mindnumbing, world of technology be partially to blame?  Specifically, as most of us would agree, people seem to be continually engaged in multiple conversations and social media connections every single moment these days.  We already know the dangers of driving while talking and texting.  That said, are we becoming so dangerously distracted that retailers feel the need to post reminders such as this on their entrance doors?  All I know is:  It's a different world now.  Times have certainly changed since I was a young girl in more ways than one.

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Comments(61)

Hella Mitschke Rothwell
(831) 626-4000 - Honolulu, HI
Hawaii & California Real Estate Broker
I remember parking next to a truck with a very little girl in her cars eat in the front--parked outside a car parts store. When I looked into the window I saw the dad looking out. But I stayed right there until he actually came out the door. Even a short moment could have devasting effects. The window was open so air was no problem but there are too many phycos out there.
Apr 11, 2013 01:50 AM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Single tasking has proven with its focus Carie to be much better than multi tasking. Your Mom must have been terrified when you disappeared in the store. We are unfortunately a sound bite society now.

Apr 11, 2013 01:51 AM
Carol Lynn Johnson
Re/Max Elite Realty - Franklin, NC
Residential Specialist

And yet, here we all are posting blog comments.  I have to say blogging is my least favorite task.  Most days, I am dizzy by the time I get home from the multi-tasking that has happened literally all day long.  I am on call nearly 24 hours a day to my clients (which I don't mind.....just saying.......) and social media is demanding of my time.   So, yes, I feel overwhelmed some days.  I don't take off time as much as I should to maintain a reasonable degree of sanity (face it: are any of us in this profession truly sane).  I love, love, love real estate.  The answer I am seeking is how do I grow more arms and legs and how do I expand time so I can do it all?  A general question - how does everyone keep up with everything?  Is there a way to PRIORITIZE social media?  Which sites/blogs give me the most opportunity to boost my business or at least learn something?

And, why should I PAY to belong to a blog service when there are so many that do not charge?  Answer that one for me.

Apr 11, 2013 02:17 AM
Bob Miller
Keller Williams Cornerstone Realty - Ocala, FL
The Ocala Dream Team

Hi Carie, these days with all the weirdos around it is a very scary thing.

Apr 11, 2013 02:30 AM
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-739-3843

Carie, this is one of the MANY reasons why living out in the country has rewards--a throw back to another simpler time. Doors aren't locked, neighbors look out for each other, it's not a twisted society. These places in the world are becoming more infrequent, but they still exist. Wanderers welcome!

Apr 11, 2013 02:37 AM
Terry McCarley
Coastal Real Estate - Cape Coral FL - Cape Coral, FL
REALTOR, SRES, CDPE - Cape Coral, FL

It is very sad but true that times have changed so much.  When I was a child and got lost in a store it was no big deal...many years later when my daughter was a toddler and got lost in Toys-R-Us they locked the store down until she was located.  She is now in her 20's and a mother herself and she never lets him out of her sight.

Apr 11, 2013 03:46 AM
Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Carie:  I remember getting separated from Mom when we used to shop at some of the department stores in downtown Cleveland when I was a little girl sixty years ago.  I thought it was fun.  And yes, being pampered by the staff, and sent to the office (and getting candy there, as well) was a fun experience.  Life was so incredibly different then.

Now, if that happened, someone might call Child Protective Services, or even worse... they might be waiting for your or my Mom with a damn "taser."  I am afraid those days are gone for good.

Too bad you and I didn't live closer way back then.  We could have gotten "lost" together, and avoided them for hours... LOL.

Apr 11, 2013 04:48 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Talk to anyone that works in retail & they can tell you plenty of stories of mom's driving off without kids while on the phone all the time.  I think it's pretty bad that you forget your kids.

Apr 11, 2013 05:35 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Mike:  Aaargh ... how frustrating!  Can't tell you how many near misses I've prevented from happening between myself and oblivious texting drivers!

Marshall:  Sad but true indeed!

Kimo:  The stories we hear on the news about tragic incidents involving children and cars are painful to hear ... and 100% preventable.

Jeanne:  I'll borrow from Marshall #35's line:  Very funny!  At the same time ... sad but true!  I agree with you ... it's time to unplug when it affects our focus and where our focus needs to be.

Rob:  Exactly!  I've been hearing a lot lately that multitasking is not what it's cracked up to be.  Here's more proof, right?

Dana:  An unfortunate truth, for sure!

Dora:  I agree ... I think the signs are a great idea!  Just unclear as to why we've gotten to this point, that's all ....

Michael:  Thanks for sharing those links!  I had not heard of "Awareness Month" before, but it sounds like a tremendous idea ... especially in August!

Hella:  We've all seen those images before and it only takes a few moments for tragedy to strike, yes?

Gary:  Yes, as I mentioned to Rob above, I've been reading more and more about the benefits of single tasking over multitasking.  The more we do at one time, the more something is bound to get neglected, right?

 

Apr 11, 2013 08:04 AM
Carie Shapiro
North Shore Suburbs & Chicago Real Estate - Evanston, IL

Carol Lynn:  Agreed!  We could all use more arms, legs, and hours in a day to get our stuff done!  As far as 'paying to blog' here:  If you search that topic on AR, you will find dozens of posts written on the perpetual conversation about free vs. paid membership.  I promise you that those posts will give you more information to consider than I possibly can in my response.

Bob:  So scary!!

Gayle:  Your "neck of the woods" sounds divine!  I'm glad to hear places like where you live still exist.  Wanderers Welcome ... I like that :)

Terry:  You know what I mean!  When we were kids ... no big deal.  Today ... whole different story!

Karen Anne:  LOL!  You and I would have a swell time 'getting lost' together ... I can tell :)

Lyn:  That's amazing!  Yes, I agree ... it's pretty bad to forget your kids!

Apr 11, 2013 08:16 AM
Eric Michael
Remerica Integrity, Realtors®, Northville, MI - Livonia, MI
Metro Detroit Real Estate Professional 734.564.1519

Carie, not proud of it, but I remember taking off from my mom and grandma at the mall and going to the big fountain in the middle. I'd reach in and take some change to buy candy. Never got caught or anything. Different times indeed.

Apr 11, 2013 09:26 AM
Travis "the SOLD man" Parker; Broker/Owner
Travis Realty - Enterprise, AL
email: Travis@theSOLDman.me / cell: 334-494-7846

My parents probably WISHED they could leave me and my brother a few times - we had those old harnesses like you use on dogs (not the neck kind, but the chest kind). I remember when I got old enuff to "pass it down" to him - I was BIG STUFF then!

Apr 11, 2013 10:05 AM
Sharon Parisi
United Real Estate Dallas - Dallas, TX
Dallas Homes

Carie, I love your story.  I once hid in the bottom of a a display cabinet in a department store.  I slid the doors closed and sat quietly while my mom was frantically looking for me.

It was great seeing you today at the Meet-up!

Apr 11, 2013 02:19 PM
Lehel Szucs
All Seasons Real Estate, Inc. - Covina, CA
REALTOR of choice

what a great idea ... remind parents that they should really not be parents ... if you forget your child than there should be a law for that child to be put up for adoption, period, end of story.... oh yeah and no more children for those parents ... I know a bit extreme but seriously if you have a child be here for their sake

Apr 12, 2013 04:02 AM
Jeff Pearl
RE/MAX Distinctive / LIC in VA - Lovettsville, VA
Full Service Full Time Realtor

I think people are that distracted. Kids have been left is stores, restaurants, day care centers, on school buses, in cars, etc. The reminders are a good public service. Peopel need to quit walking around with microphones in their ears, and quit texting while driving. Many people have developed the habit of not paying attention.

Apr 13, 2013 12:30 AM
Kristin Hamilton CA REALTOR
Berkshire Hathaway California Realty - Beaumont, CA
(909) 557-6966- Specialize 55+ Communties Banning

Hi Carie,

Sadly there has been instances in CA where non-custodial parents have gone home and left their kids in the hot car while they took a nap. And one mom noticed a baby crying in a parking lot and called 9-1-1. They broke the window and rescued the baby and found the father down the street drunk in a bar. Sadly there are irresponsible parents so my guess they have had this experience and the attorneys had them post the sign to keep them from being held responsible. Sad isn't it?

Apr 13, 2013 06:18 AM
Melissa Zavala
Broadpoint Properties - Escondido, CA
Broker, Escondido Real Estate, San Diego County

Carie, you probably already know this but there are now software programs out there that literally close off the other distractions on your computer screen so that you can write without interruptions--a sign of the times.

Apr 13, 2013 11:35 PM
David Grbich
Realty One Group - www.FindCARealEstate.com - San Juan Capistrano, CA
Orange County Real Estate - 949-500-0484

Lots and lots of distractions to take us off course - I am writing this comment while watching the Masters! Too many distractions! Regards Dave

Apr 14, 2013 09:22 AM
Brad Baylor
ERA Coup Agency - Milton, PA

Wow - that is scary.  I can't even imagine being that distracted that you'd leave your child in the car!

Apr 19, 2013 01:12 AM
Gene Riemenschneider
Home Point Real Estate - Brentwood, CA
Turning Houses into Homes

I have 6 boys almost 17 down to 3.  Twice I have left kids in the car by mistake.  Believe me I am a loving father, but it happens.  I do not think the sign would have made any difference.  Both times it happenned at home.  One time I actually think the kid went back out front climbed in the car and shut himself in with the auto door opener on the sliding door, but could not get himself out.

The other time I asked my oldest son to get the 2 year old as I had to get in the home in a hurry.  I told him in a generic term to get his brothers in the house.  The baby got left.

The first time it was a very hot day.  The second time it was hot but not super hot.  In both cases the kid was missed and we went looking for them.  They were OK, but we put them in cool baths and gave them popcycles.  

Apr 25, 2013 07:22 AM