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Once Brothers, Now Friends!

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Education & Training with Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp Non-Licensed

About two months ago, my bother Rick Andersohn found me here on ActiveRain. He used Google to do a name search and the rest became history today! When I was 5 years old, my brother and I were separated from each other due to one of those unfortunate events in life we all hate called divorce. I had looked for my brother Rick for so many years, and at this point in my life, I was ready to give up, throw in the towel, and come to terms with knowing that I'd never see him again!

Today, after more than 40 years, two brothers were reunited in one of those special moments that stopped time!! OMG!! Finally, I'd be coming face to face with a complete stranger yet knowing he is my brother. I don't even know who he is, or what he looks like. I wouldn't know where to begin if I had to explain some of the thoughts and emotions that I have experienced these past few days. It all led up to just one moment in time, 11:00am Today!


This photo was captured by my 11 year old son who had never seen or knew he had an Uncle. As my wife and I sat there anxiously waiting for Rick to arrive, it was really weird. I realized that my mind and body could actually produce nerves that I never knew existed. LOL!~ Just then, in walked Rick! A stranger, my brother, is this for real?? The world went silent, everything went into slow motion, and as we met for the very first time, I walked up and hugged him, told him that I loved him, and almost started to cry... It was an experience you just can't imagine unless you've been through it, or were there!

On April 20, 2008, I realized that 40 years in the desert is a LONG TIME! I once read in a best selling book somewhere, that once upon a time, some people were left lost in a desert for 40 years. Now I know what that feels like, and what I think it really means, at least for me. This morning, my brother got to meet my Gorgeous Wife, his little nephew Brandon, that will carry on the Andersohn name, and Me, his long lost little brother. What an awesome and extraordinary day!! It almost felt like Oprah or Dr. Phil would come walking in at any moment! LOL!~

We had so much to talk about and yet we never really even scratched the surface. There is so much to share, stories, adventures, life's challenges, old times, and then there's the questions. Awwww the Questions?!? I'm sure your imagination can run wild with that one. My brother is alive, he's well, and he's only an hour away. Can you believe that? 40 years go by, and for 14 of them, he has lived within 60 miles of me and I didn't even know it.

Here's an obvious lesson I learned today! Love strangers as if they were your brother! You never know, they just might be!

I never would have thought in a million years, that authoring a Blog on ActiveRain would help my Brother and Google find me one day. Just two guys with the same last name, total strangers, just a few miles apart, once brothers, and after many lost years, now best friends!! He's my Brother Rick! I Love ya Bro!

The sky was blue, there were no clouds, but it "rained" really hard in California today!! :-)

Comments(174)

Mike Kelly
Sellstate Advantage Realty - Cape Coral, FL

You guys have a lot of time to make up for! Don't waste a day and god bless both of you!

May 13, 2008 01:42 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Michelle - not much could ever top it, but working now for ActiveRain is a very close second!  :-))  Thanks.

May 13, 2008 09:12 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Mr Mike Kelly - we do have many memories to share and many more to create, and God Bless you too my friend, I appreciate your comment.  :-))

 

May 15, 2008 06:47 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Hey everyone -

I was just going back through all these comments and it just hit me soooooo hard.  I am surrounded by some of the most awesome people in the Country. I feel like I know so many of you so personally, and though we have never met in many cases, I feel compelled to tell you that I have never been more deeply touched than by this circumstance, and by all your kind and supportive comments. 

IMO, 20 transactions, 100 leads, 25 loans, and 15 home stages from my Blog couldn't out weigh this story and the value I have received from ActiveRain and the members, family!! Thank you again for such a surreal event in my life.  My great great grand children will read and speak of this day. It's monumental in so many ways, at least for me and for my family! 

We are Blessed   :-)

May 15, 2008 07:02 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Looks like Rick and I will get to meet again for a second time in just a few weeks. I AM having him over for a BBQ and we are going to FEAST!!  We may not have EMERIL, or TYLER FLORENCE to cook for us, in fact we may even just split a bologna sandwich as an appetizer like pops use to make us, but no matter what, it will rank in the highest, once again, as one of the BEST days of my like.

I can't wait to sit and have a meal with my brother! Man, it's EXCITING!!  I just can't begin to explain any of this and how fortunate I feel to be blessed by having my brother back.  This has been one unbelievable and incredible journey.

May 15, 2008 07:22 PM
Debbie Malone
Londeree's Real Estate & Property Management - Lynchburg, VA
From Lynchburg To The Lake (434) 546-0369

Brad, I have goosebumps after reading your post and all of the comments. What an awesome journey you're on, I am so happy for you and your brother!

May 16, 2008 04:16 PM
Heather Rankin
Rankin Realty at Lake Powell, LLC - Page, AZ
Lake Powell Real Estate

Brad ~ Keep me posted on the Active Band Idea - sounds fun! We've been working a lot and should have a pretty good idea of the schedule for the next five or six months by next week. Would love to hear what y'all come up with. Cheers!

May 17, 2008 07:54 AM
Robert L. Brown
www.mrbrownsellsgr.com - Grand Rapids, MI
Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Mic

What a fantastic end to a great voyage. Congratulations again on sharing your story.

May 17, 2008 09:04 AM
Sharon Hampton
Re/Max Around The Mountains - Blue Ridge, GA

Brad: what a cool story. Glad you found your brother.

May 17, 2008 02:27 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Debbie - the jouney has just begun and I thought the search and journey were at their end. Thanks.

Heather - I am totally serious about it and I will keep you posted. I just need about 4 assistants right now to help me get through each day and all the things I want to do and accomplish in a 25 hour period. Maybe you could help me come up with some ideas as to how we could put something together. I have 4 or 5 other serious members interested in doing something right now, let's keep in touck ok?  Thanks!  :-)

Robert - the voyage is only starting, but I know what you meant!  :-)  Thanks for sharing in this story with your comment.  It's the members on ActiveRain that take it from being a social network to being family!  and you can take that statement to the bank!!  :-)

Sharon, thanks. I appreciate that, actually, he found me.  I owe it all to ActiveRain and Google, and unfortunately, I don't have stock in either! Darn!  :-))

 

May 17, 2008 02:52 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

Brad, I had read your other blog about how you and your brother found each other and I was really looking forward to part two - meeting each other.  Thank you for sharing this with us!  It warmed my heart! 

May 17, 2008 03:17 PM
Mirela Monte
Buyers' Choice Realty - North Myrtle Beach, SC
Myrtle Beach Real Estate

One more thing:  could you please join our group "The Optimist" and post this life enhancing blog there?  That's what the group is all about: Hope and Gratitude, and this fits in perfectly!  Thank you, Brad!

May 17, 2008 03:20 PM
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Keller Williams Realty - Ann Arbor, MI
Ann Arbor Area Real Estate

I am so happy for both of you.  Amazing stories here in the Rain and this is certainly one of them!

May 19, 2008 09:47 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Thanks Karen, this is truly one of those amazing stories you hear about on the Oprah Winfrey Show or DR. Phil, but it's rare to hear about these types of stories on the Internet and because of the Internet. :-) I am honored and blessed to not only share this story with others, but to be part of this story.  My children's children will read this someday and hopefully just say...WOW!  Unbelievable!!  :-)

May 20, 2008 06:48 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Buyer's Choice - thank you for following this story and finding part II.  I love the invitation to your group, but this post is already maxed, as it has already been placed in the 5 allotted groups here on AR.  Thanks for the invite and for your kind comment, they're always welcomed. :-)

 

May 20, 2008 06:52 PM
Sharon Hampton
Re/Max Around The Mountains - Blue Ridge, GA

Brad: Thanks for the update. Hope you guys get to spend more time together in the future.

May 24, 2008 02:36 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Thanks Sharon, looks like the 7th of June 2008 will be our first meal together since 1967.  Can't wait, I practiced BBQ'ing yesterday, I think I'm ready to do some grillin fro Bro.  :-)

May 27, 2008 05:50 AM
Loretta Buckner
Real World Properties, Inc.| Your Real Estate Consultant for Life - Palm Harbor, FL
Your GREEN Real Estate Consultant For Life!

Brad--thank you for posting this!  On a whim I decided to check AR blogs for posts on Foster Parenting, and found this!  I am in the process of exploring Foster parenting/adoption options--would you care to give me some feedback, from a former 'fostered' perspective?

Jul 02, 2008 02:49 PM
Brad Andersohn
Retired Executive Director of Education at eXp - Boulder Creek, CA
ActiveBrad - 707.646.1876

Real World - I'm not from a foster family so I'm afraid my perspective wouldn't be much help. My brother and I were seperated at a young age due to a divorce.  He went with Dad, I went with Mom, and we just lost each other in the process.  Him finding me on AR 41 years later is truly nothing short of a miracle.  I do feel Blessed.  :-)

Jul 04, 2008 03:53 AM
Anonymous
Darrell

Hello,

I'm just courious.  Did you and your brother kiss each other?  I know y'all are probably both American and I know it's not American culture for men to kiss on the cheek, cheeks or anywhere else.  But since you'de been apart so long, it would almost be hard not to. 

Man!  I don't see how in the world you managed not to cry!  I have a brother or sister waiting on me in Heaven and he/she's been there 32 or so years.  I just hope you'll do a video to reinact your reuniion.  I'd rather see a video of you two hugging instead of a pic although you probably wouldn't hug as long reinacting it now that you've been together awhile but I'd still like to see it on video.  I'm very happy for both of you. 

 

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