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Monday Musings: Give Stuff or The Gift of Time &/ Or Experiences?

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Our personal email-box, this weekend and this morning was filled this with pages of stuff on sale, one day deals, etc...The last thing we want in our home is more stuff. We are regularly combing through our closets and cupboards to give away stuff that clutters our life. 

 

We do like giving gifts, and like us the majority of friends do not want stuff on Christmas day or Hanukkah or whatever holiday is dear to them.  We recently asked our 32 year old niece what she wanted, and her answer was " I have everything I need, I just want your love and friendship!"

Our solution for the holiday gifts is giving in the form of experiences.  Rather than add a pile of stuff to unwrap from the mound of gifts under the tree, we would take the youngsters in our family on experiences as a gift.  For instance we went ice skating, skiing, the movies, the theatre, the ballet, the opera, or anything else they wanted to experience. 

With those out of town, we still give an experiential gift.  If they are wine lovers or foodies, we pick a special bottle of wine for them or a special cheese for them to send.  Pictured above is a perfect gift for wine lovers in our sphere.  This wine ranked #27 on the Wine Spectator list.

 

Or, we will send them tickets to a performance they want to see with great seats! Or enroll them for an art class or cooking class. We practice what we preach.  Our holiday gift to ourselves is a ski trip!  

 

One year we flew my mother to Las Vegas for a performance.  Our friends were managing Peggy Lee at the time, and she was opening for George Burns.  My mother loved Peggy Lee, and she spent a bit of time with her backstage...and she loved meeting George Burns and friends like Sammy Davis Junior...She talked about this moment for years!

 

The gift of spending time is precious to us more so than any high priced item (stuff).  It is the experience that matters most, everything else pales by comparison.

 

 

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Comments(35)

Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

The most precious gift is that of time, Alexandra! Far too many people prefer to throw expensive gifts at recipients in an effort to save time. A small gift (like the wine & cheese example) is a nice gesture, especially when given in addition to time spent with them.

It lets the recipients know we listen and remember what they said about their own favorites (wines, cheeses).  Of course, be sure to remove the price tag!!  😉 

Dec 02, 2019 03:09 PM
Barbara Todaro

LOL... I didn't notice the price on it.... good eye, Debe!!

Dec 07, 2019 12:07 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Debe Maxwell, CRS Of course, we would remove the price tag.  In this case I left in for those who have a spending limit in mind for their recipients.  A

Dec 02, 2019 03:16 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

A few months ago, I put everyone in my family on notice.  Please give me no more stuff!  I've run out of room to store it.  I love experiences and time!

Dec 02, 2019 03:24 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Myrl Jeffcoat We do too, and I am glad you put the family on notice!  This is the time of the year, when many say thank you and "you shouldn't have!  And they mean it..LOL

Dec 02, 2019 04:20 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

HI Ron and Alexandra Seigel,

Spending time together, or enjoying a special experience is a very unique and wonderful way to say Happy Holidays. 

Dec 02, 2019 06:15 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Hi Ron and Alexandra Seigel - my kids just asked me the question and I would love just them.  Today our mailbox was filled with advertisements for stuff.

Dec 02, 2019 06:53 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Morning Alexandra.

We have all the stuff we need, now the best gift, as you know, is that of love and friendship.  Make it a great day

Dec 03, 2019 01:59 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hello Ron and Alexandra Seigel, I got really emotional reading this post. The best gift we can give is our time and/or experience.  Those will be remembered for years to come. 

Dec 03, 2019 05:42 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is a timely topic, especially when considering seniors who already have too much stuff. Many of us prefer a gift that can be consumed and more time with friends and family.

I should give away my stack of scarves that have never been used.

Dec 03, 2019 06:02 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Roy Kelley 

Sounds like a great plan to give away your stack of scarves.   We still have stuff in our home that should go to charity.  A

Dec 03, 2019 07:04 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Beth Atalay thank you for the feature in Banana Tude.  As I was reading your comment, I looked up the wall next to my desk and saw a photo we love taken by a dear friend in Africa.  It means a lot to both of us.  A

Dec 03, 2019 07:07 AM
Beth Atalay

Isn't it funny how some gifts mean so much to the receiver and they were small things for the giver. 

Dec 03, 2019 07:33 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

James Dray we agree with you, memories last forever.  The time spent together will be remembered...A

Dec 03, 2019 07:08 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Grant Schneider I have no doubt that your wife and you would enjoy the company of your daughters best.  A

Dec 03, 2019 07:22 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® we both cherish time with our friends and family. My parents were both very funny and I love hearing them laugh and making us laugh!  A

Dec 03, 2019 07:25 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Where is the love button?  It's amazing that Allie is already tuned into the realization that relationships and experiences matter for more than stuff. She really is your niece. :) 

Dec 04, 2019 07:13 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD considering all that she has been through, I was speechless.  A

Dec 04, 2019 09:14 AM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

A, I hope this post of yours especially gets a lot of attention this holiday season.  Time and thoughtful edibles can produce memories that stuff never will.  We are so much more than consumers of stuff.  

I love it when the young ones ship store bought See's Candy not available in our region.  It takes more time for them than ordering online from the warehouse but the taste in freshness is day and night.

Dec 04, 2019 11:34 PM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Ron and Alexandra Seigel (A)...what a beautifully written post.... and my favorite statement is:

The gift of spending time is precious to us more so than any high priced item (stuff).  

Dec 07, 2019 07:12 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Barbara Todaro Thank you for your kind words.  I wish more people would spend time witth each other rather than sending big expensive gifts.  A

Dec 07, 2019 12:03 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

I love this post, and we still do a combination of giving stuff and experiences. There is such an emphasis at this time of year on buying things to give...Cyber Monday is no longer a day, Black Friday is turning into a week.

Sharing something different that someone will appreciate could be very special and a wonderful memory.

Jeff

Dec 09, 2019 11:19 AM