If you do not ask that is what the answer will always be i.e. NO! What we should never do but find ourselves doing more often than not is asking the question mentally within our own minds and then answering it there too making it never really come out to play and stay. I ask you: Why then are you here? Thinking in and of itself only goes so far and too much of it causes one to sink in it (sinking in thinking) is no myth
It is no accident that mankind is created in ways that are obvious in the parts we should play. We are mobile machines able to come and go. We can process data. We have the power to make a difference. We are the pains and pleasures unto ourselves and unto others. We must activate ourselves in the full and here's why
Self-satisfaction comes from taking part in something & investing oneself for difference that you would make and see it go full cycle or enter into a meaningful start & knowing you had something to do with it. The use of ones talents, skills, gifts & abilities does just that. They give a return on use every single time
DON'T ROB BANKS
Let us all agree that the dark side lingers and beckons wanting you to participate as well and offers the same return only more complicated. Yes, lying, cheating and stealing works but it has a way of activating that annoying little thing called conscience. Furthermore, you swim against the currents & live in the shadows
WHEN NO IS WELCOMED
Well suppose someone asked the question and you are involved & you don't like it or reject it for your reasons then your answer of no goes to work. Nothing hard about that unless its a deaf sales-person you are dealing with lol. I am not interested NO & goodbye all suffice. Be weary of this however....
YOUR ANSWER WILL BE TESTED
When using the word NO if you don't say it like you mean it or you flinch or use a different tone of voice your no is doomed and challenged as a result. Your no must stand or you wont! The same goes for your yes although it comes with a different set of circumstances. Never the less your credibility is at stake
CONFIDENCE IS REQUIRED TOO
Meaning what you say and saying what you mean is the underlying theme and dynamic. Pushovers are born here as well as iron wills too. We don't want our conduct to be anger driven so take note. We want to express a belief with firmness making a point and in the process sharing who we are and why we are
YOU CAN DO IT SCHOOL
Years ago I met a young man who attended courses on how to sell anything and what to do if there is resistance etc. This guy comes over my house after requesting to see me and wants to try out the lesson he learned which is to make a sale whether I like it or not. Its whether he likes it or wants it that counts....????
Listening is a courtesy and when granted under certain conditions can be a privilege too. At the end of his pitch, he went for the close. I paused and said no thanks. He went to step two which is to rehash and make me explain myself. That's what they teach which is to get you to engage. I declined and said NO & bye-bye
THE GUY GOES FOR MY JUGULAR
These courses teach that NO means yes no matter what. At the very least it means try again. What? On his third attempt, he became annoying, intrusive and disturbing. Now comes my definitive response: Are you deaf or just plain dumb. Have you lost your mind. Can you not hear me? You need to leave now.....
ON HIS WAY OUT
He explains how he was taught to do this and as I am escorting this young kid out the door I left him with being rude, challenging, argumentative and relentless will always produce a negative response more than a positive one. You may make sales via intimidation but get familiar with cancellations and starving of food
PEOPLE BUY FROM PEOPLE FIRST
If someone likes you the sale is half way there. If they don't sale is lost. Start-out like-able and you will get better results. I used to by Girls Scout cookies and give them away only because I liked the sellers. That is why it is so important to know who you are and then to know who someone else is...in that order