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Bread, eggs, milk and a distressed home owner...sir, paper or plastic ?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with GoodBuy Homes NJ Essex & Union County Real Estate specialist 0791869

Here's something interesting that happened to me a few days ago that I thought I'd share with you all.  I was at the grocery store picking up a few items (you know the usual) bread, eggs & milk etc...and when I got to the check out line the cashier asked paper or plastic?, then she noticed my Brokers name tag and immediately asked me "how is the market" my initial response was "why do you ask?" she instantly burst into tears...now I'm thinking to myself WOW what an awkward moment....

"Was it something I said"? I quickly replied; With a fist full of tears the cashier replied "NO" then started to apologize. So I pay for my items and she somberly asked if she could talk to me for a few moments being that I was a Realtor before I left the store, so I agreed and waited on the side for her to close her register.  She started out by apologizing again about the outburst but she said she didn't know what else to do; you see this women is losing her home...I asked her where did she live and to tell me a little more about her situation.  She explained that she had a great job as a chef for a popular restaurant and used to earn a 6 figure salary until the restaurant closed due to a shaky food industry.  She went on to say that she had sold most of her jewelry, the extra car and mostly everything in the house of value on eBay or craigslist just trying to maintain her expenses and keep up with a $4,700 a month mortgage payment. 

She also mentioned that she is working in this store because its miles away from her home and nobody would ever see her there not to mention she really needed the money.

 

She explained that she was 9 months behind on the mortgage and was fearful that an auction or sheriff sale was looming and didn't know where else to turn.  She said the bank would not modify the loan because her income was too low and was asking if there was anything I could do?  My first response in situations like this is to discuss the option of short selling the property, because I hate to see people go through a Foreclosure; she said she had never heard of a short sale and just asked that I do whatever I could to help her.

I visited the home and it was a beautiful place but It felt like the warmth had been taken away and the house felt very uninviting...it was missing couches and family pictures or signs of life and there was mail (bills) stacked up high on the kitchen table that I could barely recognize that it was a table.  The house felt very cold. It felt like all the joy had been stripped away, so sad...

She apologized for the mess and we spoke for about 2 hours that night.  Just so you all know I got the listing and will begin the tough journey ahead of trying to help this home owner some how, some way find a resolution...I will keep you all posted....

Comments(6)

Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED
RETIRED / State License is Inactive - Portland, OR

Well, it might be you were in the right place at the right time.  I do hope you can help her!! 

Jul 15, 2010 03:37 PM
Jon Budish
Resident Realty - Fort Collins, CO

Sometimes we forget that many people don't understand their options when they find themselves in a distressed situation for the first time. I hope you can get her home sold, and she'll consider it a step forward to getting her life moving in the right direction again.

Jul 15, 2010 03:38 PM
Robin Dampier REALTOR®
Coldwell Banker King - Hendersonville, NC
Hendersonville & Western NC Real Estate Source

I think that maybe some people are just too ashamed, proud, stressed and emotionally affected by the situation to know where to turn.  If she has children the stress would be that much worse.  I think for men this situation is probably even more devastating as they feel they have let their families down and are helpless.  It's tragic the scale of the situation.  Hopefully you will be able to help this woman out of her situation so she can see the light of day once again.  For the folks that will get to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel I hope they have a better understanding of managing their money, credit cards, etc.

Jul 15, 2010 03:57 PM
Nancy Conner
Olympia, WA
Olympia/Thurston County WA

That's really a sad story - but I hope we end up reading the followup with a happy ending!

Jul 15, 2010 04:02 PM
Malik Crichlow
GoodBuy Homes NJ Essex & Union County Real Estate specialist - Maplewood, NJ
Maplewood,SouthOrange,Union Real estate

Yeah what a surprise for me to embark on this situation just from being at the right place at the right time.  Not to mention a special thanks goes to my name tag...

Jul 15, 2010 04:23 PM
Mary Macy
Top Agents Atlanta Metro - Roswell, GA
Top Agents Atlanta Metro

We are never in the Wrong Place, sometimes we are called upon in strange ways to help those around us.  With 1 out of every 75 homes getting a foreclosure notice in the first 1/2 of 2010, we are probably passing by in our daily routines many people like this.  Keep wearing your name tag and assisting everyone you can, we are all in this together.

Jul 15, 2010 04:39 PM