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NICE vs KIND

By Beth Atalay

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cam Realty and Property Management

January 13, 2013 07:26 AM

NICE vs KIND

I could still hear my mom telling me “play nice” “be nice” as she would drop me off at a friend’s house for a playdate. Have you ever stopped to think what makes a person NICE or KIND?? Ohh there's a HUGE difference; beautiful

NICE
-Always says YES to please others
-Someone others usually call when they NEED something
-Holds their true feelings and gripe later on
-Someone who always ends up with more work than his/her coworkers and complaints to others later
-Does things that hinder with their schedule
At one point in our lives, we've all been there. Characteristics of NICE is classified as "People Pleasers" Is it a good quality? I think not.

KIND

-Performs an act of kindness just because...Visit to a homeless shelter, spending time with an orphan...

-Does not talk about acts performed

-Prays for those who are in need without being asked day in and day out

-Encourages those who are down and in need

-Brings happiness to those around them just being themselves

I say lets stop being nice to each other and start being KIND..

What are your thoughts? Are you a Nice or a Kind person?

Something to think about....

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Adrian Willanger

206 909-7536 AdrianWillanger-broker.com - Seattle, WA

Profit from my two decades of experience

Beth, good questions? I would definitely say I'm more in the kind person camp. Although I do dent to be nice sometimes. Hmmm.

Jan 13, 2013 07:35 AM

Beth Atalay

Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL

Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Adrian, Overall, I would consider myself a kind person, however, there are many times when I play the "nice" and have been trying so very hard to just say "no".

Jan 13, 2013 07:38 AM

Wika Hutchinson

Eugene, OR

Broker, CRIS, SFR, CDPE

Very interesting post Beth. Can we say that "kind" is a deeper, more serious version of "nice"? :)

Jan 13, 2013 07:42 AM

Wika, to me, being kind is because you want to vs nice you feel the need you have to. That's how I look at it!

Jan 13, 2013 07:54 AM

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA

Probate Real Estate Services

Beth, Based upon the descriptions you provide I would say I lean more towards being kind than nice. I'm still getting lessons on being nice to people. I'm learning to say "no" more and reserve being nice when it is appropriate. I no longer do things to please others at my own expense. I can be kind and still politely say no.

Jan 13, 2013 07:59 AM

Belinda Spillman

Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado - Aurora, CO

Colorado Living!

Beth. I love random acts of kindness. They seem to be more from the heart than just someone being nice. You can be a mean person and just act nice, but mean people have a hard time being KIND.

Jan 13, 2013 08:05 AM

Kathleen, I am still learning to say "no" when I need to. I struggled with being a people pleaser for a long time but with age, I've learned to politely say no as well!

Jan 13, 2013 08:08 AM

Belinda, very well said!!

Jan 13, 2013 08:10 AM

Doug Rogers

RE/MAX Coastal Properties - Destin, FL

Your Real Estate Resource!

I strive to be kind, but sometimes fall short of the mark.

Jan 13, 2013 10:09 AM

You're not alone there Doug!!

Jan 13, 2013 11:13 AM

Roger D. Mucci

Shaken...with a Twist 216.633.2092 - Euclid, OH

Lets shake things up at your home today!

Huge difference between "nice" and "kind"...........thanks for pointing them out Beth.

Jan 13, 2013 08:23 PM

Good Morning Roger, Kindess comes from the heart..just because!!

Jan 13, 2013 09:20 PM

Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX

NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Beth,

I like your definitions because many times people think of these words as interchanable. There is a difference. I feel I do fall into the kind range:).

Jan 14, 2013 01:26 AM

Dorie, there's a world of difference but yet just as you commented, many may not even realize the difference. I personally would not want anyone to be nice to me!

Jan 14, 2013 01:31 AM

Toni Weidman

Sailwinds Realty - Trinity, FL

20+ Years Selling Homes in New Port Richey, FL

Beth - your definition of nice sounds like a typical passive-aggressive person. I think you're right!

Jan 14, 2013 10:25 PM

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX

Selling Homes Changing Lives

Beth,

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This is an excellent post and a great reminder as we move forward into the New Year. Kindness should be on everyone's Mission Statement and promoting kindness a goal worth pursuing.

Jan 15, 2013 01:44 AM

Toni, many may not even realize the difference.

Patricia, I do appreciate the "Suggest". I absolutely agree with you, I think we should go out of our way to show act of kindness.

Jan 15, 2013 03:37 AM

Cheryl Dickson

Retired Realtor / Retired Home Inspector - Oklahoma City, OK

Retired Realtor, GRI / Retired Home Inspector

Oops! I'm both, glad to see the difference in print. Gonna set some goals for modification. Thanks Beth! :)

Jan 18, 2013 11:04 PM

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