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The Power of Motivation - What is Your Why?

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The Power of Motivation - What is Your Why?

As I am focused on my own goals of health and wellness, as well as my new business goals as I venture into a niche in probate real estate, I find that I am inspired and motivated by others who seemingly allowed life to kick them in the pants so hard, they appear to have lost their motivation and drive to even have any dreams, let alone aspire to reach them. I think we call that giving up.

I can't stop thinking about the 5/27/2014 episode of Chris Powell's Extreme Weight Loss. The show truly is about more than weight loss ... it is about a life transformation. When we commit ourselves to something, anything, we will see results.  We may not see the results as quickly was we would like to, but we will see them. It takes persistent effort.

What I saw on Tuesday's episode shocked me; and my mind continues to ponder. If we commit to something without a strong and compelling "why" then are we less likely to achieve/complete what we commit to?

Chris Powell choose two people to participate on the 5/27/2014 episode.  Pardon me if I don't have all the facts absolutely correct to the minutest details.  The details, in this case, are not as important as the message. 

One participant was a young male, around 20 years of age.  He weighed in just slightly under 500 pounds - I think his weight was 480 pounds.  He was a star home-run hitter in baseball. The background bio they did on him indicated that if it had not been for his weight, he would have been drafted to the big league. 

photo of a row of treadmills in a gymHe "committed" to the show and the process and was losing weight - reaching his goals.  The golden carrot for him was being signed on with a team, and making the millions of dollars he was promised by the marketing/manager - scouting person that had been following him for years.

After Chris Powell (the ABC team) completed an extensive background check on the man that was promising the big contract revealed he was somewhat of a fraud, and the contestant would not be signing a big contract, or making millions for his talent as a home-run hitter, he got so angry he wanted to quit the process, and he did quit the show.

 

contract with a lot of money under and around it

He confessed his only motivation for participating in the extreme weight loss challenge was to get the contract and make millions.  Once that was removed from the realm of immediate possibility, he quit.  When his "why" (the contract and millions) was taken away, his motivation and inspiration to lose weight went with it.

After he quit he returned asking Chris and his wife Heidi for help because he had gained back a lot of weight. While they were willing to continue working with him, the contestant did not want to be away from home and was expecting Chris and Heidi to finish their work with him in his home town and at his convenience.  That was not going to happen - so he quit, essentially, again!

The opportunity was there for the contestant. No telling what his future would hold in baseball if he had lost the weight.  Without a guarantee he would get a contract, and the big bucks, he choose to stay in his comfort zone and eating his way to what will likely be an early death.

I'm still amazed that the young man's focus so myopic he could not see the big picture. I have not always felt this way but I certainly do now:  Anything worth having in life is worth working for. There are no guarantees in life except for the old cliche of, death and taxes. We will pay taxes. We all carry a one-way ticket to this planet - no one will get out alive.  

I feel that we can guarantee ourselves that we will be and do our very best.  If we look to others to deliver to us what we are in control of (our self), then we are looking in the wrong direction. We need to turn around and look in the mirror. It starts with us and it ends with us. 

Everyday we get up and out of bed for a reason; without a "why" there may be little reason.

My "why" is to live a meaningful life with a purpose. For me it is making a difference in the lives of those I serve in real estate and making a difference in the world through the good I do in my real estate business and all throughout my life.

What is your "why"? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Comments(16)

Bill Reddington
Re/max By The Sea - Destin, FL
Destin Florida Real Estate

For the last number of years my goal was to get my daughter thru college with no debt. A week ago she graduated from Auburn University. Believe she had a great 4 years. That was the point. My new goal is to gear my business so I can go into retirement and not have to worry about retirement. I will make it. 

May 29, 2014 06:44 AM
Beth and Richard Witt
New York, NY
The best Retired Brokers !!!!

Well put... I call it a burning desire for something... Over the years I've hired hundreds of agents and I only hired those that had a burn or what you refer to as the WHY...

Happy Day...

May 29, 2014 06:59 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Bill, those are very good whys!  I put my son through college - he loved it so much it was a five year plan. Would have been six if I had allowed it (LOL)!  Congrats to you and your daughter. I'm definitely focused on refining retirement planning.  So much was lost ... now it is time to rebuild. That was certainly not part of the initial plan.

May 29, 2014 07:01 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Richard & Beth, I have not always had the burn ... for some reason it is all firing up inside of me now and my passion and focus is at a level I have not seen in many years.

May 29, 2014 07:03 AM
Lisa Von Domek
Lisa Von Domek Team - Dallas, TX
....Experience Isn't Expensive.... It's Priceless!

Hello Kathleen,

Some just can't see the forest for the trees!

May 29, 2014 07:39 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathleen, this statement you made:

"the contestant did not want to be away from home and was expecting Chris and Heidi to finish their work with him in his home town and at his convenience."

Points out not only a sense of entitlement with this young man, but a sense of entitlement which is running rampart in this country.  He was the one needing the help, but those who were willing to help him were expected to do it on his terms, instead of the other way around.

May 29, 2014 08:20 AM
Tom Arstingstall, General Contractor, Dry Rot, Water Damage Sacramento, El Dorado County - (916) 765-5366
Dry Rot and Water Damage www.tromlerconstruction.com Mobile - 916-765-5366 - Placerville, CA
General Contractor, Dry Rot and Water Damage

I think our why needs to be bigger than just money, or the spouse, or prestige. It need to be something that goes beyond the small targets; like good health, greater character, or "it's the right thing to do". These can better withstand a change in course.

Thanks Kathleen!

May 29, 2014 10:32 AM
Wayne Johnson
Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS® - San Antonio, TX
San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale

Kathleen-I guess sometimes the why is too superficial as to make the goal worth the effort. A well reasoned why is always a good driver.

May 29, 2014 02:44 PM
Joe Petrowsky
Mortgage Consultant, Right Trac Financial Group, Inc. NMLS # 2709 - Manchester, CT
Your Mortgage Consultant for Life

Good morning Kathleen. How do any of us really know what motivates or doesn't motivate someone. We may see something as good for someone, but until that person is fully committed, powerful results just won't happen.

May 29, 2014 07:25 PM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Hi Kathleen, wow, wow. What a waste is all I can say. I just can't imagine the narrow thinking of this young man. We have to work hard for excellence - there are no short cuts.

May 29, 2014 11:53 PM
Broker Patty Da Silva Da Silva
Green Realty Properties® - 954-667-7253 - Cooper City, FL
Top Listing Broker

Nice story Kathleen. We all have "why's" but not all of us have a really strong one. Maybe find something you really love doing. Not because others are doing it or because you wanted others to see, but what you think is really for you. I think that's a strong why.

May 30, 2014 01:24 AM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Kathleen: Great blog to look within us to see what makes us tick. With me, it changed throughout my life, I was always striving for something but having fun at it. As you can imagine, you can only do "fun" so much. I believe that I have finally "matured" and now am looking to do what "satisfies" me and that is to have meaningful interaction with those around me. Real estate, the interaction of people I CHOOSE to work with, and my immediate family satisfies me. Oh, that an travelling to 3 or 4 of my favorite places, not the world.

May 30, 2014 03:10 AM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Kathleen,

It amazes me how many books are written on the subject of motivation...and no one gets it still.  As you said it so well, we have to work hard to achieve excelence and keep improving.  A

May 30, 2014 03:38 AM
Anna Hatridge
R Gilliam Real Estate LLC - Farmington, MO
Missouri Realtor with R Gilliam Real Estate LLC

Great post. My motivation is to simple do my best every day and inspire others. Some days I am outstanding on the inspiration field and other days my best is not appreciated as much by others.

Jun 03, 2014 12:04 PM
The Villages Realty
The Villages Realty - San Jose, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Another great post Kathleen.  Always a fantastic job getting your message across.

Jan 26, 2017 05:18 AM
Eagle Ridge Realty
Eagle Ridge Realty - Gilroy, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Kathleen, you've written another great post loaded with some good information. We always enjoy what you have to say.

Jan 27, 2017 07:44 AM