Emotional Roller Coaster - PLEASE GET ME OFF

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August 6, 2004 Nolan Bryce Corbett

 

 

 

While I was in South Carolina enjoying the arrival of my first grandson, Nolan Bryce Corbett, born on August 6, 2004 and having an exciting time being a new Grandma, I received an  unexpected call on the 16th of August, just 5 years ago this past Sunday, from my sister, Maureen, telling me I needed to return to Rhode Island immediately.

I said to her,
 "Why do I need to return now when Mom's birthday party isn't until the 25th, and all the plans are all set. I plan on staying here until the 20th and then returning. Why do you need me now?"

She shocked me by saying,
"I need you here now, not for planning her birthday party but for planning her funeral."

I was in a stage of emotional shock and just could not believe what I was hearing and what was happening at the moment.
  

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What an emotional roller coaster I felt I was on, excited, thrilled and filled with joy for the birth and arrival of our newest first member of the Corbett family and at the same time now so sad and depressed with the death of my best friend, my mother.

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     In Memory of MY MOTHER

Mary Kathyrn Medeiros Pacheco      mom 2004

                                        August 16, 2004mom 2004

Emotional drained and feeling so alone without her I would cry just thinking of her. We did everything together, She lived 20 minutes away in East Providence and everyday we would talk and visit each other at least twice a week if not more frequently.  We shopped together, and went out to eat and enjoyed each other'scompany. In order to cope with this sadness, my first born son suggested that I use my artistic talents and the stockpiling of Avon I had accumulated over 30 plus years and that I should learn to sell on EBay. I needed to pass my time with something personal so I said I would give it a try.
I registered on EBay August 14. 2005 and learned from mentoring groups  html and how to list items for sale.  I have an EBay store named, Kathleens Avon Boutique and more. My Ebay World has become a passion of mine, getting to know people that become my friends all over the world is exciting. I sell internationally to many countries , to name a few: New Zealand, Ireland, Great Britain, Canada, China, Germany, United Kingdom, Australia.

 
After several months I built my ME page on EBayand dedicated it to my mother, who is always on my mind.  When I visit my store each day I take a moment to see her smiling face and say a prayer that she is happy to be in heaven with my dad and her Mom and Dad and her sister and brothers. Someday I, too, will join them

Kathleen's Boutique

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Jim Hale
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There is nothing quite as likely to make you feel alone in life as the loss of your last parent.

But there are worse things to lose.  My sister  (age 74) just lost the third of her six children.

The best way to remember a good mother, is to be one.

May the Lord bless you in your grief ...and in your opportunities to mother.

 

Aug 17, 2009 08:08 PM #1
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
(FIRST Exclusive Buyer's Office Providence-RI) - Providence, RI
Realtor, RI-MA, CEBA, Master, e-Pro, ABR, ABRM, GR

JIM: I appreciate your comforting words this morning. I am so sorry to hear about your sister's third child's death. That must be devastating  to lose a child. I witnessed my paternal grandmother grieve when she lost her son, my Dad.  It was heartbreaking. My deepest condolences to your sister, her family. and to you and your family.

I thank you for these words of wisdom you rendered to me,

"The best way to remember a good mother, is to be one."

 I do my best to be the best Mom to my two sons and now the best Grandma to my two Grandsons.

Aug 17, 2009 08:38 PM #2
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Marcia Hawken
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Your mom knows how much you love her.  Wouldn't she be thrilled with all the nice things you have shared with us.  Bless you!

Aug 17, 2009 11:05 PM #3
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Irene Tron
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You are so blessed to have had such a close relationship with your mother.  I'm sure that has helped mold you an even better mom and grandma.

Aug 18, 2009 12:02 AM #4
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Karen Anne Stone
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Kathleen:  It is so hard to lose your mother... especially when you were so close to her.  I lost my mom 21 years ago... and I still find myself saying that... "gee, I need to call Mom."  And then, I realize she is gone... and feel so sad.  There are nights when I talk to her just before I fall off to sleep... and I just know she hears me.   My heart goes out to you, Kathleen.  Gentle huggs to you.

Aug 18, 2009 12:25 AM #5
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Marilyn Harrell
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Life is a rollercoaster ..... At least when you have your health it's moving fast.... Congrats with your successful ebay business... The heart is very heavy and the holes never mend completely even as the heart does lighten up ..... Can only be thankful for the time you had....

Aug 18, 2009 02:17 AM #6
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George Souto
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Kathleen, the lost of a parent is never easy no matter the circumstances.  My wife and I lost both our parents within the last 5 years, first hers and then mine.  Mine went quickly but hers did not.  Even though there was a big difference in time to prepare us for the lost of each, the emotions were the same, and we are never prepared for the final outcome.

But having said that, having lived through both, I much prefer the way my parents went, then the way hers past away with her watching them slowly dieing, and not have much of a quality of life in their remaining year.

Aug 18, 2009 03:34 AM #7
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Matt Listro
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Hi Kathleen,

Your post really tugged on the heart strings. I'm sure it was really tough to lose your mom and we always hope the heartbreak gets a little easier to deal with everyday. Thank you for sharing this post with us. All the best now and in the future.

:)

Matt

Aug 18, 2009 04:30 AM #8
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
(FIRST Exclusive Buyer's Office Providence-RI) - Providence, RI
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MARCIA: I know my Mom would be delighted. She was always so proud of all my accomplishments and she would announce this to everybody. I was the first in the Medeiros and the Pacheco famlies to go to college and graduate with honors.

Aug 18, 2009 09:36 AM #9
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
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IRENE:It is so true I find myself saying and doing things that my Mom would approve. She was a gentle woman who enjoyed family, friends and having fun. She would go out everyday if you could,with her companion, my Aunt Hilda, her sister-in-law. They were more like sisters. Many times they traveled to Lincoln to visit me and have a beverage and snack before continuing on with their day trip. Many times they offered to have me come along, but regrettably I had to pass for I had appointments to keep.

Aug 18, 2009 09:55 AM #10
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KAREN ANNE: I thank you for your gentle hugs, It is so difficult to have a parent no longer with us, especially a Mom. So sorry that your Mom is not here, too, but she and my mom are always in our thoughts and in our heart. I am sure you feel that those 21 years were like yesterday. My Dad died 23 years ago and it does not seem that long especially when I see him in the actions of my sons.

Aug 18, 2009 10:02 AM #11
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
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MARILYN: I appreciate your visit and your kind words of comfort.

Aug 18, 2009 10:13 AM #12
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
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GEORGE: My condolences to both you and your wife on having your parents no longer with you, too. Both my Dad and my Mom both died suddenly without suffering My Dad went in for a hemorrhoid operation on May 30 1986 and died in the hospital June 10th. He fell and lost more blood and could not raise bis platelets and died from a septic shock condition. My Mom went the the hospital on August 15 and they found that she had pneumonia and she died within 24 hours on August 16th, 2004. Both were quick but most difficult for the family to accept the reality that they were no longer with us.

Aug 18, 2009 10:23 AM #13
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
(FIRST Exclusive Buyer's Office Providence-RI) - Providence, RI
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MATT: It is always a joy having you stop by and leave be a touching comment. Thank you

Aug 18, 2009 10:24 AM #14
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Karen Anne Stone
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Kathleen Ann:  I have been reading an article in the Washington Post about something called "Complicated Grief."  It is very interesting.  It differentiates between regular grief... as if any type of grief could be termed "regular"... and a newly-named grief called "complicated grief."  With my background in Psychology... I have found it quite interesting.  There is, however, quite a difference between understanding something... and dealing with it.

By the way... just as I prefer Karen Anne... do you prefer Kathleen, or Kathleen Ann ?  I think it is important to be addressed as one prefers.  So... what is your preference ?  Take care...

Aug 19, 2009 01:05 AM #15
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
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KAREN ANNE: You have taught me something I had not heard before, newly-named grief called "complicated grief." I did some further research and I wonder if I suffer from this in a small way occasionally when I dwell on the past with my mother.

You can me Kathleen Ann which I prefer, but Kathleen is just fine. Would you believe many of my family members still insist on calling me Kathy. Growing up that was how I was addressed.

Aug 20, 2009 06:36 AM #16
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Lisa Glowacki
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Karen, I know you wrote this sometime ago but it brought tears to my eyes. I lost my VoVo (your from around here so you know that is grandfather) in 1983. He was more like a father to me. To this day when I think of him it still makes me cry and sometimes laugh. It is a great gift to know how much that person also must have loved us. Once in a lifetime relationship ok maybe if we are real lucky a couple of more golden relationships come our way.

Sep 26, 2009 10:35 AM #17
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Kathleen Ann Pacheco-Corbett
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LISA: That you for visiting, Any time is always a great time to stop by and say hello and comment. We do live not too far I love the East Bay area and spend  peaceful relaxing days at Colt's Park. Our emotions are always on call when we think of the people we so loved and are with us now only spiritually. I always respond in my prayers "until be meet again"

Sep 27, 2009 10:43 AM #18
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