connection: TALKING "at" or "with"?
- 09/12/21 05:47 AM
We take for granted when we speak that we are communicating but is it effective? Be mindful of speaking in rote which is mechanical or habitual repeating of something learned. Rote does not give a high rate of return in the intimacy realms. Another watch word? Script! Speaking in a canned response (predictable) which people tend to drown out
RHETORIC
Still another type of speak, rhetorical talk is one talking to themselves and for themselves essentially not including the other person but taking up their time. This triggers a signal to the listener's attention span to activate. Deer in headlights appears or eyes … (6 comments)
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connection: WHAT MAKES SENSE
- 09/09/18 06:05 AM
This is where all of us humans must go and willingly too or we will not have the "deep" satisfaction of connecting with whatever we are doing or wanting to accomplish. The first stop (or start) for the person's sense is with themselves and from there, we seek to reason with all others with one specific easy to do task i.e. to meet with their sense in common. If successful, this is called or referred to as...
COMMON SENSE
Take a moment here. A very common mistake made is to seek out ones thinking or thoughts and then proceed as directed but why add an … (2 comments)
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connection: INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATIONS (must know)
- 01/15/18 07:46 AM
This is NOT about saying please and thank you and pretending to have complied with interacting and communicating with another person. NO. Manners are a small part although a necessary one to be sure. What I am speaking about is the art, depth and results (or lack thereof) that come from an exchange either personal or professional of persons who we know or don't know
THE CUES & CLUES
Humans communicate with their whole being & we find out that some are far from being whole but never the less need to be understood. The coming together for whatever reason is full of verbal and … (4 comments)
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connection: THE COMPLICATED
- 01/27/17 07:42 AM
They are out there. People who complicate and why they do is worthy of a study. It is wise to approach this subject when you don't have to however, it also teaches well when it is layed on a person and they have rise to it or be run over by it. The keep it simple people wonder about these lost in their mind folk
SAY WHAT YOU MEAN
For someone who does not know what they are talking about, complicating it is convenient and the standard when it comes to sharing with others. If someone doesn't "get" what you are saying or doing, it is not their processing … (7 comments)
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connection: WHAT ARE WE REALLY SAYING?
- 10/16/16 12:01 AM
The noises we make are no different than what the animals do with each other i.e. establish a range of notes, sounds, expressions and pitch to convey an array of thoughts, needs, & essentials. While a bear or a duck only speak their own language to their like kind, animals use sense to complete the action or purpose. Humans would do well to take what is for granted to fine tune this ability to communicate
WHAT ARE WE REALLY SAYING?
Let us breakdown the topic of communication & human interaction closer to its core meaning to better grasp & to eventually practice the art of … (10 comments)
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connection: WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?
- 09/02/16 11:50 PM
This is so much a part of our society and even more so our psyche. We have reached the vanity point where all that takes place is bounced off of the title of the posting WHATS IN IT FOR ME? This is where it all ends up and begins too. Anyone in business or offering services is wise to have the answer to this before it is asked. Have this ready to go and in some cases, launch it right away, up front so as to engage & capture the situation sooner rather than later
WHATS IN IT FOR ME?
It is the definitive thought … (8 comments)
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connection: THE MINDS MUST MEET
- 07/08/16 11:38 PM
Its the age old rule of all business. Two people must first have a belief driven by desire that leads to intimate contact or inquiry. From there, activity or interest is given a chance to develop and what is important is that it is mutual in nature. At some point, and without words, a sense of follow through is activated and a finale or closure takes place. A service or product has just served its purpose
MEETING OF THE MINDS
Forcing a meeting of the minds is stressful but doable. It is an aggressive way of doing business still needing a sender and receiver to … (2 comments)
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connection: IS IT SAFE TO INTERACT WITH YOU?
- 05/18/16 01:13 AM
I remember this topic coming up for me decades ago. It is simply this. When I hear or see something, what it means to me is what comes out of me at that time. As a child, any participation is welcomed by teachers and encouraged by parents. However, as we get older and mature and learning environments become more structured and focused, exploring or connecting in ones own unique way and timing is discouraged and even put down on
MESSAGE SENT?
Not all of us are built to always receive the message being broad casted, whatever it may be, in the same way or fashion one … (8 comments)
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connection: POWER TO ACTIVATE
- 11/01/15 10:46 PM
Activate! Defined it means to make something happen, turn it on or get it going. We have automatic activation functions that perform well enough like getting up in the morning, attending to the body needs and directing us to our beginning of the day thank you. However, we also have the power to turn other things on too
POWER STANDING BY
What will you do today besides read this posting and agree? Its a good start to consider the subject of what else to get going. Today, people will come and go and do things beginning with them as well as ending with them because … (5 comments)
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connection: WHERES THE INTIMACY?
- 08/07/15 10:15 AM
Giving a kid a hand held remote device that connects to a video game is the new pacifier and baby sitter and one of great conveniences too. Hey, it helps to develop eye to hand coordination and keeps their little baby brains active and baby sits them too. No nurturing takes place. Just noise and sounds. Then, as they get older, more devices are available but to what end?
BEING HUMAN
Today, when you get to interact all you want with technology, it is easy to forgo the manners, courtesies, intimacy, nurturing, inquiries and respect that comes from live interactions. When you are in the presence of … (8 comments)
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connection: HEARING WHAT PEOPLE SAY
- 08/05/15 08:55 AM
Not all noise made is understood. I know of people who filter selectively what they want to hear no matter what is said adding confusion to the mix. The speaker knows what was said and by whom, but selective hearing makes up its own rules. That is why it is important to listen. Not be in a hurry to respond. JUST LISTEN
MEANT or SAID?
Often when I go for clarity, thinkers and emotional persons tend to agree with what I repeat back in my own words. My retort, if they get cocky explaining to me that.."that is what I meant to say" ..well that is … (9 comments)
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connection: ESTATE REAL?
- 05/22/15 11:54 PM
What strange two words this title of the post. Estate Real is when an owner of Real Estate is where they want to be and when asked what their status is, they comply by saying the state of my status is real. I just made that up as an example of why you may need an agent who uses a high degree of ethics to rep you. Let me explain
CAN I HELP YOU?
Take any subject you are not familiar with and it is "deer in the headlight" material until you can make out just exactly what it is or is not. Until then, … (2 comments)
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connection: CAN YOU HOLD A CONVERSATION?
- 02/15/15 11:47 PM
This is not as easy as it may imply. Making noises with the mouth anyone can do. I am speaking about an exchange, dialogue or conversation that creates an in the moment, temporary connection between two people. Often, what interferes with this is ignored. The first obstacle that injures the dynamic is as follows
DON'T HAVE THE TIME
People have made it up in their own minds to NOT take the time to explore with another human being whatever is introduced in that moment whether it be professional or personal based. They are in a hurry (for whatever reason) which is really an avoidance (indifference?) to … (17 comments)
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connection: DO YOU SPEAK SIXTH GRADE?
- 09/14/14 12:22 AM
Sixth grade. That's right. It is not condensing and speaking it normally allows me to be fluent in it when I unleash the point of the speak. Why do I speak 6th grade? WHY NOT? To me, that means everyone from 6th grade on up can hear me. Whats wrong with that? That means from 11 years old to 111 years old, we can have a meaningful exchange
IT MAKES POINTS
What a broad audience to exchange with as well. Its not that I am after anything a young person would want to know. It is so that my point, your time and my … (5 comments)
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connection: THE WORLD OF YES and NO
- 09/11/14 05:16 AM
How many times have your asked a yes or no question and did not get back a YES or a NO? Too many I believe. If you have raised kids, its in the millions.. lol! However in the professional world of adults interacting within the business world theme, yes and no makes for a nice presentation and stance. Usually it allows for the one asking a question to follow it up. That makes you inviting to interact with
ANSWER THE QUESTION
Why do people feel that a yes or no question is an invitation to tell a story? To begin an argument? … (4 comments)
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connection: DO YOU SPEAK POST?
- 08/23/14 02:09 AM
Yes fluently thank you. What is post speaking or speaking post? It is the art of making a subject or yourself known in so many quick and to the point words and paragraphs. It is the complete opposite of a LONG story. It is closely related to the dynamic of writing an essay which many people in college had trouble with.
HEY LOOKY HERE?
Getting ones attention to a post is done through the title! It can be informative, tricky, interesting or something in the news already. From there, usually below you title is a snippet of the fist two sentences or paragraph allowing a reader … (0 comments)
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connection: I KNOW WHO DOES AND I KNOW WHO DOESN'T
- 04/12/14 12:28 AM
Comment & post. Posting is a personal dynamic where the one posting does it because of their reasons whatever they are. On comments, this remains interesting. I like to comment and be commented upon. There is something about the send/receive connection
SOME DO AND SOME DON'T
Not everyone responds with a comment. I know the ones who do. On those, I like to go back and see what they said about what I said about their post. In doing this, I have seen some rare glimpses of more of the person and their practice not to mention the following...
WHEN YOU COMMENT
Sometimes answering with a comment allows … (9 comments)
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connection: ONE OF THE MOST UNDER RATED STEPS IN BUSINESS
- 03/04/14 07:51 AM
The meeting of the minds. The reason we may come together if we take the time to explore what the attraction is. From there, many things will come up which should lead to dialog, conversation and a possible business deal. If the minds meet up and agree...
CONTACT
When I inquire about a property, the first meeting with the first mind will and should be the agent handling the sale. That agent in turn will want to know about as much about me as I want to know as much about the subject. It has begun
BUSINESS IS IMMINENT
A meeting of … (5 comments)
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connection: IT MAKES NO SENSE TO DO THIS
- 02/17/14 06:47 AM
Hold back your input, feedback and contribution when it comes to participating in life and all that it brings about. We are born naturally to ask, seek, knock on doors to have them open to be investigated. It is no accident that you are a self-contained mobile unit either
NOW GET TO IT
I often see where people let the moment go by when they could have had some say so or even made a difference. They know it too and if not corrected you create a state of desperation within the self. If you keep doing it and don't make the healthy adjustments and take the … (26 comments)
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connection: WHATS I TALK YOU LISTEN YOU TALK I LISTEN CALLED?
- 01/28/14 12:40 AM
Dialog. No need to reinvent or make up a name for something that has been going on since Adam & Eve. It doesn't matter whether it is personal or business either. We are compelled to use what we have been given or it is taking away from you or withers away on its own
HOLDING IT IN
Use it or lose it is no urban myth. We were not intended to have secret agendas and hidden feelings. Keeping things in puts undue stress on the body and its inner parts. Organs cry out after a while because of all the internal pressure and withholding
WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?
Conversation has been … (24 comments)
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We take for granted when we speak that we are communicating but is it effective? Be mindful of speaking in rote which is mechanical or habitual repeating of something learned. Rote does not give a high rate of return in the intimacy realms. Another watch word? Script! Speaking in a canned response (predictable) which people tend to drown out
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